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Love Will Come Find You

“I’m on another level when it comes to connecting with another soulIt’s no longer about finding someone that’s goodIt’s all about finding someone that’s right for meCustom-made, specially packaged and fully certified to handle my level of crazyNow THAT I’m willing to wait for” I wasn’t looking for love when James came into my life. I had endured far too many breakups, cried one too many tears and been hurt far too many times to want to get into another relationship. I was beyon...

December 1, 2018

Is It Worth It?

“If another house could make a man less of a bastardAnd another car could make a woman less of a bitchThen everyone would be better off richerUnfortunately, your inner demons don’t respond to retail therapy” I am a one-of-a-kind, super-fine queen who will accept nothing less than the best from any man. I was born beautiful. In fact the Queen of Sheba has nothing on me. Being treated like the goddess that I am is simply my birthright and all the aunts and uncles in my family can attest to t...

November 25, 2018

There's Nothing Wrong With Being Single

“Let the world worry about you being singleIn the meantime, you worry about being happy” I’ve lost count of how many times my mother has asked me about giving her grandkids. Better still, there’s my sister who keeps dropping hints about wanting to become an auntie, my friends who keep prodding me for information about potential new lovers, my co-workers who keep offering dating advice by recommending apps like Tinder and these couples that I meet who feel the need to reassure me that I w...

November 17, 2018

I Am Not Afraid To Walk Away

“I love it when they think you’re afraid to walk awayThey are usually the last to realise that they’ve given you little reason to stay” Today I celebrate 30 years of marriage to my husband, Jonathan Smith.  As we stood in the beautifully decorated town hall, we were soon lovingly ushered towards an imposing but gorgeously decorated centre table. We were flanked by gold cutlery, flowery-patterned snow white napkins, glistening champagne and wine glasses and a throng of family, friend...

November 17, 2018

I Am Not That Kind Of Woman

“I’m not the kind of woman you find to warm your bedEntertain you when you’re boredStand in as a last resortOr step in as your back up planI’m the woman you can only dare to approachOnce you’ve left your childish ways behindAnd understood what it means to love another being other than yourselfYou don’t win women like meYou earn the right to be in our lives ” I knew Josh from the coffee shop. I would often see him appear just in time to do his 7am coffee run but one day he decided ...

November 17, 2018

Why Should I?

How dare you dim your light in response to their insecurities? Who gave you the right to downplay your brilliance to keep them comfortable? Who gave you permission to be less than who you really are? If you feel the need to be someone else around them If they've convinced you that anything but the real you is a welcome reprieve Then don't question who you are Instead, question who you've chosen to surround yourself with Don't tell me you chose to incarnate on this planet Pass through you own b...

September 26, 2018

Set your standard and stick to it

There is something powerful in loving yourself. When you've taken that downtime (from relationships) to understand what makes you laugh, what gives you joy and what invigorates and revitalizes you, then it is easier for you to identify if the individuals you meet will add or take away value from your life. Also, you tend to not waste a lot of time believing in the potential of someone but seeing them for what they truly are. When you live a life of health and happiness, it is easier for you to i...

September 16, 2018

I Like You Trump

I like you Trump I don't care what anyone else says You are exactly what my people needed The harbinger of change, reawakening what appeared to be dead You see the Black community was asleep until you came along Content to live in mediocrity, happy to give their dollar to the 'Man' But you in your brash, uncensored and unsympathetic glory Did us a favour in more ways than one You reminded us that we were never accepted with open arms in your dying nation And if we were tolerated, it was only b...

August 23, 2018

Nne Agwu (Mother of Divine Nation) Storytelling Festival 2018

Compliments to Nkechinyere Nwobani for majority of the pictures....

August 4, 2018

Trip to Dorset

Talk about beautiful! This is Dorset, a beautiful county located along the coast in the UK. I spent my weekend there (as a treat to myself for my birthday) and even though it took me over 3 hours to get there, it was well worth it! I can't take full credit for having the imagination to embark on this trip because it was really organised through my company. So the invite went out and over 10 of us responded, many of whom traveled right after work. However, the real fun started on Saturday where w...

July 3, 2018

Radiate Windrush

I went to this event on Saturday 23rd June and it was based at Crystal Palace Park. I can't remember how I came across it but I was keen to attend given the recent scandal about the Windrush generation in the UK who the government had no problems in unceremoniously casting out of Britain (on the premise of them not having valid citizenship) even though, many of them left family and friends behind (years ago) to answer the call to rebuild this country. Fortunately, that day wasn't about focusing ...

June 25, 2018

Black Market Festival 2018

Well, as a follow up to the Goddess event, I decided to also attend The Black Market & Film Festival which took place last Saturday. As always, the black entrepreneurs in our community showed up in full force and I did walk away with quite a few lovely items. ...

May 8, 2018

Krav Maga RELOADED

Time goes by so quickly! Who would have thought that since the time I last posted about Krav Maga, a month would have come and gone! However, it's been quite an interesting and thoroughly enjoyable month. The class boasts of people (mainly men lol) from all ages and backgrounds but one thing we do have in common is the fact that we absolutely LOVE our training sessions. ...

May 4, 2018

You Are Not Responsible For What Someone Else Did

"Who told you it was your fault? Who said you were responsible for their actions? How ironic that they should do it Yet you should bare the shame And when you break your silence You are also to blame That‘s what pain does Like an infection, it craves another host body that will nourish it then pass it on But what if I told you the cure wasn‘t in pills  The comfort wasn‘t in sex And the freedom wasn‘t in drugs? You see pain often likes to join forces with fear So why not weaken the p...

April 28, 2018

Purposefully Broken for Greatness

Now this post is significantly different from the ones I usually do but it is definitely worth sharing. As I continue to network and go to inspiring events, I inevitably come across incredible individuals within the Black community who never cease to amaze me. One such person is Tamar Nwafor. Although I didn't have the privilege of attending the event detailed in the poster above, I was lucky enough to meet her at another event and she left a lasting impression on me. She is a wonderful exa...

April 21, 2018

Spain - Madrid & Cordoba

I have traveled to Spain several times and absolutely love the country! I think it's because the weather reminds me so much of the Caribbean. However, I would be lying if I said that I didn't encounter some hostility on more than one occasion.  I was ignored in a haberdashery shop in Cordoba once. I was also insulted behind my back (quite literally, a couple stood behind my back and hurled insults at me in Spanish) because in the crowd, I made the mistake to block their view in my innocent ...

April 19, 2018

XI'AN - CHINA

I visited Xi'an back in 2012 and spent an entire year immersed in the culture and the environment so that I could enhance my Chinese language skills. This language element formed part of my 4-year Bachelors degree at the time. Xi'an is not like the cosmopolitan cities of Beijing and Shanghai where you have a large English expatriate population and all the mod cons that you are likely to see in the Western world. However, the population is just as big and the pollution is just as alarming.  ...

April 19, 2018

PORTUGAL

I went to this hostel in Portugal back in February 2018 and it was superb from start to finish. The airport pick up was arranged and professionally handled by Andre Mota Figueiredo who so happens to be a relative to the owner of the hostel. He runs a small transport company called Bespoke Tours and his contact details are as follows:  Phone: +351 915 100 838Email: amotafigueiredo@bespoketourspt.com His English is impeccable and he is extremely courteous. He also doesn't ...

April 19, 2018

Krav Maga

Alright, it's been 2 weeks since I started this training and all I can say is.......IT'S A WORKOUT! The upfront payment is a bit pricey but for the life skills, calibre of training and personal equipment that you get, it quickly becomes apparent that it's good value for money. It is a close contact, reality-based, self-defence training regimen and is not unknown to the police and military force. However, because of the nature of it, I have to make sure that I have my gum shield, groin guard, shi...

April 8, 2018

You Better Act Right

Understand that it is okay to give your love interest second chances and to fight to keep the relationship going. However, when the relationship is only ever about second chances, constant apologies and a routine cycle of disappointments, in time the relationship becomes tiring and all you have to show for it is frustration, doubt and insecurity. Never regret the time spent making it work but never forget that there was life before them and there will certainly be life after them. This world is ...

April 3, 2018

[Single Life Adventures] Nebula Sister Spiritual Cleansing Weekend

Through the Goddess event, I managed to learn about this cleansing weekend and decided that it sounded too good to miss. It was going to be hosted by a Black Goddess, the turnout would be all Black women and it would focus on reconnecting with our African ancestral rituals so that we could spiritually cleanse and be reinvigorated. Even though I hesitated about confirming this booking, I knew that the higher powers would not allow me to miss out on this opportunity. However, as if my curiosity wa...

March 26, 2018

[Single Life Adventures] Goddess Event 2018

I went to an incredible event earlier in March called the Goddess Event and was blown away by the sisterhood and support among the attendees as well as the incredible talent, resourcefulness and creativity of the entrepreneurs. As a testament to this, the picture at the start of this blog is the handiwork of the talented Goddess, Merissa Hylton, who also painted live throughout the duration of the event. Her website is merissahylton.com and she can also be found on Instagram via @merissahyltonar...

March 25, 2018

[Single Life Adventures] Benicassim Festival (Spain) - Rototom!

Rototom!!!!!! It was a wonderful festival and an extremely thrilling experience. Brace yourselves - there are many pictures and loads of videos to watch as I slowly unfold the wonders of this very popular and highly entertaining event.  Now in keeping with my objective to try new things and have new experiences, one of the many great ideas I had was to attend a festival. Luck would have it that while I was talking about this with some Spanish friends, they suggested I attend Rototom which s...

September 11, 2017

Why People Don't Take You Seriously

There is the old proverb 'actions speak louder than words' and that remains true to this day. As you embark on your journey of self-discovery, learn to use less words and to do a lot more. Challenge yourself to become the person you've always dreamt of being. Develop self-respect and self-esteem which do so much to determine your quality of interaction with others. Prove to yourself that your fears are simply that and your dreams are not impossible. Learn to be happy in who you are. That way y...

May 29, 2017

Make Your Actions Do The Talking

We've focused a lot on love but we haven't explored the other aspect of living life single and that's learning to create a full and wholesome life while on your own. If you've been known to procrastinate, avoid challenges, rush headlong into situations etc., and you believe it's time to make a change, there is no better time than the present. Learning something new about yourself by pushing your limits and doing what you've never done before will help you to appreciate that a lot of your obstacl...

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