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You Are Not Responsible For What Someone Else Did

#dateyourselfchallenge

"Who told you it was your fault?

Who said you were responsible for their actions?

How ironic that they should do it

Yet you should bare the shame

And when you break your silence

You are also to blame

That‘s what pain does

Like an infection, it craves another host body

that will nourish it then pass it on

But what if I told you the cure wasn‘t in pills 

The comfort wasn‘t in sex

And the freedom wasn‘t in drugs?

You see pain often likes to join forces with fear

So why not weaken the pair by facing them both?"

Often times we struggle in relationships and in life because we still hold the seeds of hurt, pain and betrayal that were sown at a tender age. You were not born only to become half the man and woman that you currently are. If pride and shame hasn‘t done much to heal you, probably it‘s time you tried something else. Here‘s another shout out to Tamar Nwafor who wrote another honest and informative blog post. Go check it out:http://lionesstamar.blogspot.c...

Here are some useful links in the meantime:

SUPPORT FOR BLACK WOMEN

Tamar runs a number of healing and support services for women and young girl survivors of sexual abuse. Click here to find out more.


SUPPORT FOR BLACK MEN 

The Man In The Mirror - TMITM:   WWW.TMITM-PROJECT.COM
Mankind Counselling www.mkcharity.org

SUPPORT FOR MEN AND WOMEN

There are other well established organisations that can offer support to both men and women victims of sexual abuse. They include:

MIND - https://www.mind.org.uk
Victim Support: https://www.victimsupport.org.uk
The Survivor's Trust: http://thesurvivorstrust.org/survivors-and-supporters/
Help for Adult victims of Child Abuse: https://www.havoca.org/
Aurora Foundation for People Abused in Childhood: www.aurorafoundation.org.uk
Haven:  www.havennetwork.org.uk
Into The Light, London: www.intothelight.org.uk
London Centre for Personal Safety(LCPS): www.londoncentreforpersonalsafety.org.uk
NAPAC (National Association for People Abused in Childhood): www.napac.org.uk
One in Four London: www.oneinfour.org.uk
Respond London:  www.respond.org.uk
Survivors Together(London):  www.survivorstogether.co.uk
Survivors UK (London & National): www.survivorsuk.org
Survivors of Sexual Abuse Anon (SoSAA):  www.sosaa.org.uk

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